The last year has been incredibly taxing on most people. If you've come out unscathed you're part of a very small minority. Whether you or your family have gotten Covid, maybe your job has been impacted, there are a myriad of shakeups that have altered the way we live. It's easy to look at these disruptions and think "I could have...." or "I should have...." but is that what you should be doing? The textbook definition of failure is "the lack of success". What does that tell us about failure? Pretty much nothing. Your definition of success and failure is different from mine, but there is one commonality and its that there is no timeline for success. Einsten didn't speak well until he was nine, Abraham Lincoln had a business that failed in 1831, Steven Spielberg failed to get into USC three times, the list goes on and on.
Bruce Lee once said "Don’t fear failure — not failure, but low aim is the crime. In great attempts, it is glorious even to fail." Failure is why it's important to have stretch goals. You know there is a high likelihood you won't get there, but it's important to set a goal that is difficult to achieve. Why? Because it pushes you to achieve greater success. Do you want to push for a promotion? What's stopping you? Do you want to pursue a change in career? Go for it. Want to start your own business? Don't hold back! So I ask again, are you a failure? If your answer is no, why not, what's stopping you?